Comments on Love, Sex and Relationships/PJ Trell Show: Who Feels More Pain- Men or Women?

It is certainly true that all people, no matter ho...

2012-02-01T20:22:57.695+01:00

It is certainly true that all people, no matter how educated in all matters love, sex and relationship they are, need to understand first and foremost that men and women are different on almost all levels one can think of. Building understanding for the opposite sex to me is the prerequisite for men and women getting along in the first place, regardless of what type of relationship they are in. It all lies in our individual genetic make-up, in the hormones (a realm to which not nearly enough importance and attention is paid), our upbringing, our environment.
Men for example have a 58 % higher serotonin level, a brain tissue hormone acting as a neurotransmitter and responsible for emotional well-being, sleep and appetite. In an article published on here last year, it said "be her serotonin" .. and that is a good start for many (if not most). Men have more muscles, especially in their arms and legs, and are therefore destined to deal with everything that is heavy or big, or both at the same time. Men usually are taller than women which again makes them ideally suited to deal with situations like running, fighting, lifting heavy items etc. a lot better than women can. And women need to realize that they cannot (CANNOT) do everything that men can without suffering physically or emotionally. Men need to understand that they will never have babies, and are not easily emotional over things, situations or people. It is Mother Nature who made us this way.
It is the same with pain, women have regular physical pain because of their menstruation, and hardly a woman is spared that, and of course during childbirth, and of very course while breastfeeding which IS painful at times. A woman cuts her finger and she will experience the mere physical pain as uncomfortable but rather translates it into emotional pain.
A man cuts his finger and says that it is nothing and does not translate it into emotional pain.
Why this is so must be answered by the scientists. Over eons, women have developed a sense of nurturing which is predominantly an emotional business, while men were sent out to hunt and gather which requires physicality: long legs, tall built, lean body all of which are needed for endurance and speed.

Well said, Freya. Applause! I definitely agree wit...

2012-01-30T20:28:14.845+01:00

Well said, Freya. Applause! I definitely agree with you and thank you so much for your exceptional comment.

What is your take on why we are so different? Is it society, upbringing, estrogen vs. testosterone? Could it be that men and women were created this way- so that once we fully understand each other, we can meet each other's needs better?

What an interesting article, Jesse ! Women can cer...

2012-01-29T19:58:48.667+01:00

What an interesting article, Jesse ! Women can certainly take and endure more emotional pain than men can; men are not good at that, they tend to get aggressive or get drunk in order to drown their sorrow. Women are emotionally more alive (as a broad general rule) and of course, if a woman displays emotions more, she gets more feedback in this realm which at times, does hurt. Women are open with their pain, be it emotional or physical while men tend to bottle it up and have higher records of blood-pressure and heart-related disorders.
I live with physical as well as emotional pain every day but even if I weren't, I could never endure any sort of pain stemming from a sexual practice. Nothing kills arousal and feeling sexy or being with a man faster than the wrong word, the wrong physicality or the wrong emotional feedback.
Thank you for bringing this to our attention :)